i feel a bit awkward postin this becuz i just finished havin a big argument with som other users a few days ago…. (i asked them to “agree to disagree” & when that didnt work i liked a bunch of their posts) but…..
t-girl tummy tuesday!!!!!!!
hope u like my giant risperidone belly….. sorry that the mirror’s a bit dusty….
I feel like handing someone their ideal self on a silver platter would kind of invalidate all of their struggles up to that point. There’s a story about this somewhere around here lemme go grab it
i disagree so incredibly strongly!!!!!! literally every night i wish ill wake up the next morning transformed into a cisfemale-passing anthro body. ive been on feminizing HRT for 4+ years and i feel like it hasnt done shit for me!!!!!!! i want to have my ideal body!!!!!!!! why would that be bad?????? have you ever heard of aptophilia? adapting to a new body can literally be pleasurable inof itself.
I’m not saying it can’t be. It’s just that not everyone feels the same way as you and I’m gonna start a poll to prove it.
People of Tumblr:
Which viewpoint do you agree with more? Reblog for a bigger sample size
“its the journey not the destination” mfs when their coworker starts taking ozempic and loses 35 pounds without trying, goes off the ozempic and only gains 25 pounds back.
“without a struggle it aint worth anythin” mfs when they go into a coma for 10 years and when they wake up society, art & science have improved.
“work ethic” mfs when they read about The Hedonistic Imperative for the first time and doubt everythin theyv ever known
The feeling of beating a super hard level in a video game after so many failed attempts?
The feeling of being comforted by a friend or family member after a rough day?
The feeling of finally being reunited with someone you missed after almost a year?
None of these feelings would exist were it not for pain. If raindrops never fell from the sky then we wouldn’t have rainbows.
Have you ever let a tear roll down your cheek? It’s very soothing.
i think everyone, in a perfect world, *should* get their own ideal body, that’d be really neat. ideally no one would have to struggle at all. ideally.
the fact remains that trans folks struggle with it every day.
anyway, the point i wanted to make when i wrote Finally You was that in a world where you can drink a magic potion and get your dream body, such a thing wouldn’t make you happy
you’ll never have that idealized dream bod in your head, and so fantasizing about it is just gonna harm you in the end. youve gotta learn to love the body you have, change what you can, and accept what you can’t
dream bod wont make you happy. you gotta make yourself happy
P.S. @auntbibby , tbh im not totally sure what you meant with the ozempic comment, but if you haven’t already i recommend you do some reading about fat liberation. i can recommend you some reading if you’re interested. long-term weight loss really isn’t a feasible or healthy goal
i just really Really hate the ideology that “good things should never be easy or free, and if they are, theyre fake”. it’s like people dont want anything to improve or get measurably better, or for old obstacles in life to be removed becuz progress is EEEEVILLLL.
people look down on ozempic & wegovy becuz it can make losing weight become easier and that pisses off the people who go to the gym 3 times a day and drink raw eggs. plastic surgery pisses off similar ppl for similar reasons. laws getting passed that improve working conditions & wages for minimum wage jobs pisses off older ppl who had a terrible time at work when they were a teenager becuz “if i had to do it u should have to do it too”.
i understand what youre saying about fat liberation. that people are naturally different weights, and we shouldnt look down on ppl for being big. that fat can be sexy etc.
however, the antipsychotic i HAVE to take (or else i will become so irritable i will have multiple violent meltdowns daily) has “weight gain” as a side effect. for the first dozen years of my life i was very very thin. since then, being on various antipsychotics & other psychiatric medications, well….. im currently 260+ pounds.
i was actually 298 pounds a year and a half ago but i went for lots of walks and changed my diet and the weight hasnt come back much. and dont say “see? you worked hard!” becuz i first tried like 3 different exercise regimens and they were all too hard. it wasnt till i scaled it back to “taking a walk or 2 every day IF IM UP TO IT” that i finally started losing weight.
……
maybe for a lot of things, increasingly the farther back in history u go, painful hard work & being rewarded were intrinsically linked. but thats not always the case. sometimes good things can happen withOUT painful hard work. sometimes painful hard work leads to detriment.
as for risuchan’s points….
i get waaaaay overstimulated if i have to play a hard videogame level over & over & over again and then finally beat it. it causes me to need to decompress or ill possibly have a violent meltdown. i MUCH prefer beating a level on the first try. i try not to play videogames very much.
i literally cannot remember a time i had a really bad day and then felt pleasure when a friend or family member reassured me. the closest ive come to that is venting to my longdistance girlfriend online and then she sends me heart emojis & hug emojis. usually when ive had a bad day i isolate myself becuz i know if somebody starts talking to me, espECIALLY trying to comfort me, im worried i might have a violent meltdown.
when somebody comes back into my life after being gone, i think “ohh…. nice!” for one second and then i immediatelly think “damn, now i have to re-plan my schedule so im set up properly for a visit with this person…. lets see…. this week in april i dont have an outing planned…. if i have a bath on wednesday night then i can skip the bath on thursday which means i can have a bath on friday night which sets me up for when mom comes over on saturday and then i can skip the bath on sunday and have a bath on monday night and…. hmmm i need to phone mom to see if my outings THAT week are on tuesday & thursday or monday wednesday & friday….” it’s pretty stressfull actually. i have so much anxiety about planning events and being late and stuff like that, i had to tell my brother to “visit me less” once. he lives in a different province.
i will admit crying is a good way to end my violent meltdowns. but id much rather my violent meltdowns didnt occur becuz i end up injuring myself and breaking stuff.
anyways all i think is….. i dont wanna reject a free lunch becuz its “on a silver platter”. good is good & bad is bad. nothing is “too good to be true”. thats just a bad thing disguised as a good thing dont let it spoil your perception of true good things.
edit: im srry if im comin across as mean. im srry.
I found a news article that may prove to be relevant to this debate:
@risuchan25@tabbycatplushy@magicalgirlanon i know i just posted a big rambling manifesto but can we just agree to disagree, i hate internet arguments like this, they sap my emotional endurance. i hate waiting for more & more arguing to happen. i personally am the kind of person who thinks life shouldnt be as hard as some ppl demand, becuz of my experiences in my life, and i guess u folks feel that the hard work & difficulty of the current world has value. so we disagree. whatever
I feel like handing someone their ideal self on a silver platter would kind of invalidate all of their struggles up to that point. There’s a story about this somewhere around here lemme go grab it
i disagree so incredibly strongly!!!!!! literally every night i wish ill wake up the next morning transformed into a cisfemale-passing anthro body. ive been on feminizing HRT for 4+ years and i feel like it hasnt done shit for me!!!!!!! i want to have my ideal body!!!!!!!! why would that be bad?????? have you ever heard of aptophilia? adapting to a new body can literally be pleasurable inof itself.
I’m not saying it can’t be. It’s just that not everyone feels the same way as you and I’m gonna start a poll to prove it.
People of Tumblr:
Which viewpoint do you agree with more? Reblog for a bigger sample size
“its the journey not the destination” mfs when their coworker starts taking ozempic and loses 35 pounds without trying, goes off the ozempic and only gains 25 pounds back.
“without a struggle it aint worth anythin” mfs when they go into a coma for 10 years and when they wake up society, art & science have improved.
“work ethic” mfs when they read about The Hedonistic Imperative for the first time and doubt everythin theyv ever known
The feeling of beating a super hard level in a video game after so many failed attempts?
The feeling of being comforted by a friend or family member after a rough day?
The feeling of finally being reunited with someone you missed after almost a year?
None of these feelings would exist were it not for pain. If raindrops never fell from the sky then we wouldn’t have rainbows.
Have you ever let a tear roll down your cheek? It’s very soothing.
i think everyone, in a perfect world, *should* get their own ideal body, that’d be really neat. ideally no one would have to struggle at all. ideally.
the fact remains that trans folks struggle with it every day.
anyway, the point i wanted to make when i wrote Finally You was that in a world where you can drink a magic potion and get your dream body, such a thing wouldn’t make you happy
you’ll never have that idealized dream bod in your head, and so fantasizing about it is just gonna harm you in the end. youve gotta learn to love the body you have, change what you can, and accept what you can’t
dream bod wont make you happy. you gotta make yourself happy
P.S. @auntbibby , tbh im not totally sure what you meant with the ozempic comment, but if you haven’t already i recommend you do some reading about fat liberation. i can recommend you some reading if you’re interested. long-term weight loss really isn’t a feasible or healthy goal
i just really Really hate the ideology that “good things should never be easy or free, and if they are, theyre fake”. it’s like people dont want anything to improve or get measurably better, or for old obstacles in life to be removed becuz progress is EEEEVILLLL.
people look down on ozempic & wegovy becuz it can make losing weight become easier and that pisses off the people who go to the gym 3 times a day and drink raw eggs. plastic surgery pisses off similar ppl for similar reasons. laws getting passed that improve working conditions & wages for minimum wage jobs pisses off older ppl who had a terrible time at work when they were a teenager becuz “if i had to do it u should have to do it too”.
i understand what youre saying about fat liberation. that people are naturally different weights, and we shouldnt look down on ppl for being big. that fat can be sexy etc.
however, the antipsychotic i HAVE to take (or else i will become so irritable i will have multiple violent meltdowns daily) has “weight gain” as a side effect. for the first dozen years of my life i was very very thin. since then, being on various antipsychotics & other psychiatric medications, well….. im currently 260+ pounds.
i was actually 298 pounds a year and a half ago but i went for lots of walks and changed my diet and the weight hasnt come back much. and dont say “see? you worked hard!” becuz i first tried like 3 different exercise regimens and they were all too hard. it wasnt till i scaled it back to “taking a walk or 2 every day IF IM UP TO IT” that i finally started losing weight.
……
maybe for a lot of things, increasingly the farther back in history u go, painful hard work & being rewarded were intrinsically linked. but thats not always the case. sometimes good things can happen withOUT painful hard work. sometimes painful hard work leads to detriment.
as for risuchan’s points….
i get waaaaay overstimulated if i have to play a hard videogame level over & over & over again and then finally beat it. it causes me to need to decompress or ill possibly have a violent meltdown. i MUCH prefer beating a level on the first try. i try not to play videogames very much.
i literally cannot remember a time i had a really bad day and then felt pleasure when a friend or family member reassured me. the closest ive come to that is venting to my longdistance girlfriend online and then she sends me heart emojis & hug emojis. usually when ive had a bad day i isolate myself becuz i know if somebody starts talking to me, espECIALLY trying to comfort me, im worried i might have a violent meltdown.
when somebody comes back into my life after being gone, i think “ohh…. nice!” for one second and then i immediatelly think “damn, now i have to re-plan my schedule so im set up properly for a visit with this person…. lets see…. this week in april i dont have an outing planned…. if i have a bath on wednesday night then i can skip the bath on thursday which means i can have a bath on friday night which sets me up for when mom comes over on saturday and then i can skip the bath on sunday and have a bath on monday night and…. hmmm i need to phone mom to see if my outings THAT week are on tuesday & thursday or monday wednesday & friday….” it’s pretty stressfull actually. i have so much anxiety about planning events and being late and stuff like that, i had to tell my brother to “visit me less” once. he lives in a different province.
i will admit crying is a good way to end my violent meltdowns. but id much rather my violent meltdowns didnt occur becuz i end up injuring myself and breaking stuff.
anyways all i think is….. i dont wanna reject a free lunch becuz its “on a silver platter”. good is good & bad is bad. nothing is “too good to be true”. thats just a bad thing disguised as a good thing dont let it spoil your perception of true good things.
edit: im srry if im comin across as mean. im srry.
I feel like handing someone their ideal self on a silver platter would kind of invalidate all of their struggles up to that point. There’s a story about this somewhere around here lemme go grab it
i disagree so incredibly strongly!!!!!! literally every night i wish ill wake up the next morning transformed into a cisfemale-passing anthro body. ive been on feminizing HRT for 4+ years and i feel like it hasnt done shit for me!!!!!!! i want to have my ideal body!!!!!!!! why would that be bad?????? have you ever heard of aptophilia? adapting to a new body can literally be pleasurable inof itself.
I’m not saying it can’t be. It’s just that not everyone feels the same way as you and I’m gonna start a poll to prove it.
People of Tumblr:
Which viewpoint do you agree with more? Reblog for a bigger sample size
“its the journey not the destination” mfs when their coworker starts taking ozempic and loses 35 pounds without trying, goes off the ozempic and only gains 25 pounds back.
“without a struggle it aint worth anythin” mfs when they go into a coma for 10 years and when they wake up society, art & science have improved.
“work ethic” mfs when they read about The Hedonistic Imperative for the first time and doubt everythin theyv ever known
I feel like handing someone their ideal self on a silver platter would kind of invalidate all of their struggles up to that point. There’s a story about this somewhere around here lemme go grab it
i disagree so incredibly strongly!!!!!! literally every night i wish ill wake up the next morning transformed into a cisfemale-passing anthro body. ive been on feminizing HRT for 4+ years and i feel like it hasnt done shit for me!!!!!!! i want to have my ideal body!!!!!!!! why would that be bad?????? have you ever heard of aptophilia? adapting to a new body can literally be pleasurable inof itself.
somtimes i post about trans characters in media, and ppl say “hey u cant say that, there are trans ppl in our community!!” and im like “ya uhhhhh like me? ive been on HRT for 4+ years. im A.M.A.B. and i wear womens underwear everyday and i have DDD-cup boobs”
and it makes me wonder like…. are other trans folks on the internet waaaay too fragile about gender humor? or am i being internally transphobic?
like there was a video about a mauy thai lady character in a videogame and i commented that i saw someone on reddit say “yay preecha is a ladyboy!! viva la thailand!” and how i thought that was funny…… and somebody replied to me and said i was being transphobic by relaying that reddit post.
artist & ex-composer diagnosed with tourette syndrome, OCD & autism. HRT since 9/11/2019. descendent of jewish refugees & settlers. she/it. i vent here so it gets NSFW
